tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5547672216318135339.post4554125162242591287..comments2023-08-12T08:57:15.671-07:00Comments on Confessions of a Wicked Stepmother: Public catharsisWicked Steppiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04698316358808416974noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5547672216318135339.post-64861056258720596572009-07-22T19:09:01.437-07:002009-07-22T19:09:01.437-07:00When my husband would say things like "I'...When my husband would say things like "I'm so glad we are together", and "Meeting you was the best thing to happen to me" my self-doubt would creep in and I'd think "Really? You would rather have me as a second wife then have had your first marriage actually work??" And then I'd feel guilty about it on the part of the SS. But with time, I got to a point where I really believed him when he said it. I know what our life together is worth mentally and emotionally. And yeah, it's too bad that it came after a divorce and all that, but I think you are right - many good things come from sad times, loss, divorce. I think it makes us appreciate things in a way that other non-steppies never will. Thanx for the great post!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5547672216318135339.post-22965576597190219092009-07-22T12:49:44.358-07:002009-07-22T12:49:44.358-07:00Funny you should say that belle mere, but I found ...Funny you should say that belle mere, but I found that when I sat down with DP and discussed things I told him how I could empathise with BM's position - how it could be very hard for her to give her child up 2/3 weekends to a woman she doesn't know, the emotions and attachment of motherhood I'm sure are no less strong for her simply because in a practical sense, she is crap at it. I acknowledge that she loves her daughter. What I don't understand is why she cannot bear to believe that DP loves his child just as much as she does. <br /><br />Life of a Stepmama, my dear partner is wonderful in so many ways, and he is learning how to be more supportive of me when I struggle just as I am learning as I go in this situation. He does alright!Wicked Steppiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04698316358808416974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5547672216318135339.post-21884077681801931922009-07-22T11:50:23.790-07:002009-07-22T11:50:23.790-07:00I'm glad that writing that letter helped you. ...I'm glad that writing that letter helped you. My therapist made me write one of those to our BM (but not send it obviously). He then made me follow it up with a letter of forgiveness - an acceptance of who she is and a tolerance and understanding of her mistakes in life and the fact that she is only human. Hmmmmm..... that letter was NOT so easy to write. But I do feel that writing it helped me to be more kind towards her. I can hear you laughing but try it anyway. You never know!!.....La Belle Merehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05081037978656372933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5547672216318135339.post-14172895058871118562009-07-22T11:35:26.398-07:002009-07-22T11:35:26.398-07:00I read that letter earlier today and had a feeling...I read that letter earlier today and had a feeling it might be you. So glad you wrote your letter and it made you feel better. That is most important. I am working on mine. I think it is great therapy to say all of the things you would like to but know the time/chance will never present itself. Good for you, and of course you are worth it! Sounds like you have a very supportative hubby.Life of a Stepmamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15224137524516150022noreply@blogger.com